[Improve][CDC] Disable snapshot split memory buffer when exactly_once is turned off

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Purpose of this pull request

[Improve][CDC] Disable snapshot split memory buffering when exactly_once is turned off

close #5349
reference #5341

Does this PR introduce any user-facing change?

No

How was this patch tested?

Added testcase

Check list

• If any new Jar binary package adding in your PR, please add License Notice according
  New License Guide
• If necessary, please update the documentation to describe the new feature. https://github.com/apache/seatunnel/tree/dev/docs
• If you are contributing the connector code, please check that the following files are updated:
  1. Update change log that in connector document. For more details you can refer to connector-v2
  2. Update plugin-mapping.properties and add new connector information in it
  3. Update the pom file of seatunnel-dist
• Update the release-note.

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waiting for this pr #6018

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test passed