Sanitised_CounsQs_subset.jsonl

{"question_id": 1, "turns": ["I'm not sure if breathing exercises or counting to 10 help with my anxiety. Usually, in those moments, I just can't do it. Although, when I have an anxiety attack, my husband can easily talk me out of it."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 5, "turns": ["I am a perfectionist and struggle with letting things go, even small tasks. My husband, who isn't a perfectionist, thinks that things will still get done even if the house is messy. I feel like I have no control in these situations, and I just do what I have to do without really thinking about it."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 11, "turns": ["I have a close friendship with a woman who feels like a sister to me. We spend a lot of time together, and sometimes we get on each other's nerves. I think I'm a hard worker and feel frustrated when she complains about being tired after working 40 hours a week, especially considering I go to school, work, and have two kids."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 13, "turns": ["I felt anxious about my mom's involvement in my children's lives because she doesn't visit as often as I'd like her to. She's come to see them four times in the past two years, but we also meet halfway or visit her sometimes. She's not a bad grandma - she sends gifts and calls regularly, but I still feel insecure about it."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 15, "turns": ["I feel like I'm getting a little better at challenging my thoughts without the worksheet, but I struggle when it comes to understanding others' reasons for their actions. Like, if my friend couldn't attend my event due to prior obligations or work, I'd understand. But if she didn't want to, I'd be very hurt and I don't know if I can get over it."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 18, "turns": ["I was just starting to feel like I was doing fine when my partner suddenly left. Can you tell me more about the lead up to him leaving?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 19, "turns": ["I find comfort in sharing my experiences with others who are going through the same struggles I faced. It makes me feel good to help them understand the challenges I endured to reach where I am today."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 20, "turns": ["I've been struggling since my partner left two weeks ago. We had difficulties in our relationship, and I have a history with drugs, including being on methadone for two years."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 24, "turns": ["I recently mentioned that after going out, the next day I would stay in bed the whole time due to physical pain. My doctor said I can do as much as I can, but I'm still worried."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 25, "turns": ["I recently cleaned up my act, but my partner is still using drugs, and I'm worried that it might lead us back to where we were before, with issues involving the Department."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 31, "turns": ["I wish everybody at school felt like that. I'm having a hard time dealing with how others perceive me and it's affecting my self-esteem."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 32, "turns": ["I think resistance doesn't exist. But in the tradition of solution-focused therapy, we believe that each client has their own unique way of cooperating, and resisting is one of them. Maybe scaling would be nice for him, in that scaling sometimes allows a person to feel less overwhelmed. Well, here's my idea, and it's not going to be of much use unless you put it through the filter of your own knowledge and your own style: I would make a scale and, at one end is he's seeing friends, it's cleaned to a degree that he's happy, and whatever else he thought was important, we would put that at the 10."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 33, "turns": ["I've noticed that my friend has been making small attempts to organize his life by sorting through piles of newspapers and articles. He sometimes reports his progress during therapy sessions, but it doesn't seem to make a significant difference. I think I need to process the double bind with him."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 38, "turns": ["I've been experiencing a double bind recently. To cope, I've been taking tiny behavioral steps, like getting rid of a pile of stuff each week. The problem is, I'm afraid that I'll throw something away that I wanted to read or connect with. These connections to literature, newspapers, and articles related to my gender change are both a curse and a comfort."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 43, "turns": ["I've been working with a client who doesn't seem to respond well to my suggestions. The only thing that has worked in the past is when he was threatened by the city, but I don't want to use threats because I'm a therapist. I've considered terminating our relationship if he doesn't improve."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 48, "turns": ["I was trying to treat you as if you were one of my clients and that was the conversation we had."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 55, "turns": ["I think there was a time when I was satisfied, but that satisfaction was taken away from me, and since then I'm afraid to feel satisfied again because what if it's taken away?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 57, "turns": ["I have a sense of purpose when I get up and go to work, but right now I feel flooded with emotion. I've always said I'm a very emotional person, and no matter what emotion it is, I feel it."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 58, "turns": ["I have a lot of fears still in me, and I think there's a fear of what's next. With the population that we see, I think they're afraid too of what's next."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 59, "turns": ["I have a fear of losing control of my life and I want to talk about it."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 64, "turns": ["I have been feeling guilty about my husband's problems as we were married for a year and he used to play this 'what if' game with me. He made me feel like it is my fault that he is going through these issues even though his problems existed before our marriage."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 66, "turns": ["I feel guilty because I think I somehow let someone down, and I end up internalizing it as if it's all my fault."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 67, "turns": ["I recently found out through genetic testing that my family has a mutation causing Mediterranean fever and other autoimmune issues. My niece and sister also suffer from this condition. I'm worried about my kids and how this will affect them."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 74, "turns": ["As a mother, I sometimes feel like a complete failure, especially when I think about my husband's situation. I can't help but entertain the thought that I could have done more to change things. Can I ever move past these feelings of guilt and stop blaming myself?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 75, "turns": ["As the patient, I feel like my daughter must see things in a certain way and accept reality, otherwise she might not cope well with her situation. But, I worry that it's increasing my own anxiety, and if she doesn't conform to my expectations, it feels like I am setting myself up for failure."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 78, "turns": ["I feel like my mom is afraid to let me have freedom. My dads have no problem with me going to the mall, even with a friend who drives. My step dad just wants to meet the driver first. It seems my mom and I only fight about my freedom and not about my grades since she gave up on that in 6th grade."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 82, "turns": ["I was 11 years old when my father passed away in a car accident. He fell asleep at the wheel after consuming a little bit of alcohol. It wasn't enough to make him drunk, but it still made him drowsy. As a result, I've never really been interested in drinking."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 84, "turns": ["I've been diagnosed with ADHD and I feel like a big mess. I'm not sure if my mom would be open to talking about my childhood symptoms because she was always at work and not really involved in my life. She couldn't remember much, even when I asked her to fill out a form about my childhood. I'm not sure whether my ADHD symptoms were there in my early years, as my mom might not be the best source of information about that."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 86, "turns": ["I was really close to my stepbrother, as opposed to my other stepbrother, who scared my friends. They didn't like my other stepbrother, and he looked like a goat and would give them dirty looks. I don't see my other stepbrother often, as he's not close to me and lives about 20 minutes away."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 88, "turns": ["I used to have structure in my life when I was with Ada's dad, but now it's just me and Ada, and I'm struggling to create that structure for us. We have fun together, but we both just kind of spin around all the time."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 91, "turns": ["I have been experiencing heart palpitations periodically throughout the day, mainly when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I'm currently seeing a doctor and taking high blood pressure medication. My doctor has talked to me about losing weight and changing my dietary habits, but I haven't had time to work out or eat right."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 92, "turns": ["I am concerned about the high blood pressure that is pointed out in this exercise chart."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 96, "turns": ["I think having a plan in place works best for me, as it helps me stay accountable to my goals. However, I'm worried about not upsetting you if I don't achieve those goals."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 98, "turns": ["I've been feeling stressed lately, but in the past, exercise has helped me feel better and gave me more energy."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 100, "turns": ["I feel like there's a lot going on in my life right now, and I need help handling it. When I think about everything that's happening, I get heart palpitations and feel nervous."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 106, "turns": ["I struggled with becoming angry and aggressive when triggered by certain situations. My counselor decided to test my ability to stay calm in those situations, by acting in a way that had caused problems for me in the past. But, she doesn't want me to hurt her."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 112, "turns": ["As a patient, I feel like I have three strikes against me - my race, my gender, and my height. It seems like some people are prejudiced against me because of these factors. I can take care of myself, but it's still tough to face these challenges."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 116, "turns": ["I've been looking for work since the end of February, and I just recently obtained a part-time messenger job, but it's not really where my skills lie."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 119, "turns": ["As a patient, I feel like my past mistakes are affecting my present. I contributed to my own problems, but I wish ex-offenders like me were given more chances in life. It's disheartening to see how people of color are also treated unfairly, and it's like society doesn't give us much opportunity."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 120, "turns": ["I don't believe this is happening. And I still cannot accept the fact that my brother is dead. I still cannot accept that fact but I had to realize that whatever I did - from that point on, it had to be something that my brother would want me to do. You know, 'coz he always wanted the best for me even though I took the wrong road and he didn't. He always, you know, stuck by me and kept telling me, 'Look, you gotta get yourself together.'"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 122, "turns": ["Five years ago, my father left the military and started to struggle with anxiety, depression, and OCD. His mental health worsened to the point where one day, he suddenly got out of the car on a busy road and just started walking away."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 123, "turns": ["I had a conversation with someone and they suggested that if someone asks to see a card, I should show it to them. However, I didn't say anything in response and remained silent."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 124, "turns": ["I feel like I have let my son down because you didn't tell me what I needed to know. I really want to forgive you for that, but for some reason, I'm still holding onto it."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 130, "turns": ["My son, my mom, me, my sister, and my dad have all been affected by my dad's accident. It's weird that I mentioned my dad last, even though he had the accident. I don't mean that in a negative way, but it's because my dad is almost none the wiser due to his brain injury. He feels grateful to just be alive and it's really bizarre."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 135, "turns": ["I get that knot in my stomach again, and I feel like I want to grit my teeth. I felt really not like myself and it fills me with hate when I think about her."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 138, "turns": ["I was just talking about how I would describe myself and the word 'rock' came up. However, I feel that sometimes being a 'rock' seems boastful."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 139, "turns": ["Last night, I was with a friend, picking up papers around eight, nine or ten o'clock at night on a Sunday. We were trying to get the papers in the box, and my friend got a box next week."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 142, "turns": ["I worry about tomorrow, but I don't have to worry about that, I know. I know the scripture, and I have assurance, you know."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 144, "turns": ["As a patient, one of my issues is really getting enough time to do everything. I have a two-year-old boy."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 149, "turns": ["I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with my papers being all over the place, but I also find it amusing. I have a pleasant smile and am curious about the source of my happiness and its impact."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 152, "turns": ["I've been helping a woman dealing with fear by having her carry a photo of someone she loves when she's out on the streets, so she can talk to that photo and feel safer. I think she's a wonderful person, but something in her life has made her fearful. It's hard for me to understand the diagnosis, but I try to come up with inventive solutions tailored to the individual."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 153, "turns": ["I have never been married and I have two younger sisters. I am in touch with the second one, but we just talk. My family tries to stay out of my issues because they've been involved for so long and they maintain a distance."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 154, "turns": ["I've noticed that my family invites my sister for holidays and she goes, but she feels that she's being punished."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 157, "turns": ["I've been working with a woman who has depression and often doesn't follow through on tasks she starts. She feels guilty and like she's not meeting my expectations. I've tried giving her simple assignments to help, like planting nasturtiums to give her a small, manageable task. Sometimes I even adjust my schedule to meet with her at a more convenient time."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 159, "turns": ["I believe my friend is an ethical person and treats others fairly. However, she has recently resorted to shoplifting as a way to resolve her emotional pain. What should I do?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 163, "turns": ["I've experienced a couple of panic attacks, and it's really scary. I felt like I was going to die, and my heart was pounding in my chest. I also tend to get clammy during these attacks."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 164, "turns": ["I've been having problems with my speed use. Recently, I've been getting in trouble at work, and my need for speed has become a problem. I'm also having fights with my boyfriend, and things are starting to feel out of control. These issues have escalated in the last five or six weeks. I've been using speed for a few years, but it became more frequent since I met my boyfriend six months ago who uses it a lot more than me."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 166, "turns": ["Lately, I have not been managing my work as I usually do, and it's distressing me. Also, outside of work, I've noticed there have been a few problems with my boyfriend. We have been fighting a lot more, and I'm becoming increasingly worried about our relationship and its future."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 168, "turns": ["Lately, I've been struggling at work and feeling paranoid about my boyfriend when he's out. I know he's just doing his job, but I can't help feeling like he doesn't love me anymore and is going to leave me for someone else. It's causing me to constantly hassle him and my anxiety has been getting worse."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 169, "turns": ["I've been feeling really edgy, and I was worried that I'd come in here and you'd say I had to give up my speed use, but I don't really want to. Can I feel better and still keep using?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 170, "turns": ["I've survived my life by working all the time, and when someone asked me what I do other than work, I struggled to find an answer. I can't stop and always need something to do."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 176, "turns": ["I know that it's about dealing with my emotions, but it's just really hard. There's a fear of being overcome by my emotions, like they might just overrun me and kill me. I have these conversations with myself, trying to be my own counsellor, but it goes nowhere."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 180, "turns": ["As the patient, I've been feeling so much pain and regret lately. I keep thinking, 'if only I knew this before.' But I also wonder how much we can really know about someone else, even those we live with."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 181, "turns": ["I feel so much pain from staying in this place, and I'm worried that it might drown me if I stayed with it. When people ask why I can't work my way out of it, I don't want to beat myself up about it, but I wonder why I can't."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 182, "turns": ["I used to solve every problem that came my way, but now I can't solve this one. So, I escape into work, books, and theories. I can't stay in the present moment because that's when I feel my emotions and it feels like a tsunami. In the early days, I tried to find something to describe how it felt and saw the Japanese tsunami on TV, which perfectly represented my feelings."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 190, "turns": ["I find it extremely difficult to talk about my problems right now. I'm struggling to come to grips with certain things and it bothers me when I talk to my wife, who's far away, and hear what her mother thinks about our situation. I feel sick because of it."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 191, "turns": ["I don't know. I was sitting in the room and waiting beforehand and I was thinking about when I was about seven or eight years old. I think that I've listened for so long to other people about who I was. I think I really conditioned, uh, to be something, uh, to be some kind of a symbol of whatever. And, uh, and not really being a person."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 195, "turns": ["I struggled a lot with my illness, especially having to hide my condition and needing help from others. It felt terrible telling people I have leukemia and I needed money, but it was hard to let go of my image of always taking care of others. This even cost me my family and children. Eventually, the illness made me understand that I'm just an ordinary person with problems like everyone else."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 196, "turns": ["I was in remission and hobbling on a cane when I first came down here. I went on a motorcycle ride which was radical for me, but it was fun. I had been dealing with a divorce, losing property, and being part of a different race in my ex's family. I felt hurt by how people judged and treated me. This bitterness and being reminded of my race caused a lot of strain, and I want to get rid of these feelings."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 199, "turns": ["I kind of missed out on my childhood and I've been through a lot of changes. Last June, I found out I had leukemia and was told that I had less than a year to live."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 200, "turns": ["How should I comfort my parents when my grandmother passed away? I don't have much communication with my parents. Two days ago, my father informed me on WeChat that my grandmother passed away due to illness and asked me to go back next week to attend the funeral, but not much else was said. My first thought was that my mother must be very sad, but I didn't think to call first to comfort or something like that. It's been three days now, and there's been no communication between my parents and I. I don't know what to do, whether I need to care, and how to care."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 201, "turns": ["When talking to strangers on the Internet or in reality, I will feel that there is no problem, after the past will always think about it in your mind, obviously the other party does not care anymore but still will be entangled, do not dare to interact with others, and do not know if there is a clear explanation is probably so. This problem has been bothering me for a long time, I don't know how to solve it, I want to ask for a help"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 202, "turns": ["Nowadays, it is often said that the emotional stability of parents has a profound impact on a family and on a child. Unfortunately and unfortunately, I was faced with parents whose emotional characteristics were: stubborn, controlling, resentful, irritable, and self-absorbed (they both complained and blamed each other, but these characteristics were particularly evident in both of them). Both of them were irritable, but they demanded that I had to accept their behavioral arrangements without thinking about whether it was reasonable for them to do so and whether it affected my normal study and work. (In particular, my parents were trying to control me with all kinds of brutal interventions after I became an adult in high school.) No matter how hard I tried to reason with both of them, it was all in vain. They brought me endless negative emotions. All I can do is running away from them, and I even feel like I have an aversion to the words they say, their perceptions, their behavior, and the stupidity they reveal. I feel that I have run out of words and I have lost patience to communicate with them. I have lost patience to communicate with them, because no matter how to reason with them, including arguing, they will not reflect."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 203, "turns": ["There seems to be some evidence that not being loved, leads to death? Do you really need someone to love in order to live? This feels very bad, can't I live by myself? Can't I live by loving myself? Do I have to let someone else decide, do I have to let someone else like me"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 204, "turns": ["I know it's a clich to be sensitive to other people's opinions. But it does bother me quite a bit. As long as there is a little bit of feedback from others that makes me feel the element of judgment, my first reaction is to just blow up and dislike them back. Completely unable to calm themselves down. Anti-judgment feelings at the same time, but constantly to judge others, such as if a person can not do their own hands and cause me to work repeatedly, I will directly explode. It is said that the reaction to what is their own internal projection, but inside I actually do not worry about the views of others and difficult for themselves. I feel very conflicted and confused"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 205, "turns": ["Why do people get schizophrenia? What are the manifestations, can it be treated with counseling and how far can one recover? How long does it take and will doctors misdiagnose it when I go to the hospital. Thanks..."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 206, "turns": ["I saw a set of warm and healing books and also wanted to share them with a good friend to make her happy together. So on WeChat said I wanted to send her a set of happy, she neither refused nor said yes. Before placing an order, I told her that I placed an order, read it and lend me a look, and joked that this year's birthday gift will send this lazy. She also said no. Then the order was sent over. The two days asked her if it was convenient to receive the goods, her response was cold and indifferent. After receiving the stuff also angry with me, said how I thought it was a whole set, you occupy my place where I put? Let me take it away within one hour. I felt very uncomfortable and decided to cut off the relationship. Why can she be so completely unconcerned about other people's feelings only think about themselves? Is she living into a cool look or am I a fool asking for trouble?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 207, "turns": ["Today, because I refused to do the chores in my mom's way, my mom said I wasn't even willing to do this little thing and I don't know what will happen in the future if I don't have their help. I was very angry when I heard that I wasn't unwilling to do it, I just wanted to do it my way and I usually do all kinds of chores. I rejected her method, but my mom said I was too cheap and said she didn't mean to attack me, but I obviously felt hurt because she denied all my abilities and every time something like that happened, my feelings were always denied and it was always me being too cheap."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 208, "turns": ["My company is recently doing a project, the manager needs for external support. I happen to have such a resource, and he is a previous cooperator. Then he was introduced to the company. The boss is very fond of him, and from the HR side it came to the news that he also offered to do the company partner. But I do not feel very comfortable. I do not know what is wrong with me."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 209, "turns": ["This problem has been bothering me for four or five years now. Whenever I go out, I want to go to the toilet or worry about not being able to find one. If there is a toilet next to me, it will be fine. I have been afraid to take a taxi, bus or plane for fear of wanting to go to the toilet. When I have to take a taxi, I can only take it for at most ten minutes, and I will be unconsciously nervous to go to the toilet after a long time or in a traffic jam. But on the high-speed rail where the number of toilet is limited, and I have to wait for hours. It has become so serious that it affects my normal life, and I am often afraid to go out. I am afraid to participate in even many entertainment activities. I do not know what kind of mental illness do I have? Is psychological counseling useful? I have been trying to relieve myself of this situation, but I still have help..."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 210, "turns": ["I'm irritable, forgetful, and sensitive. I do not know how to describe the current situation. I wake up every day unconsciously out of tears, and my heart is full of tangled helpless collapse, but I do not know how to express that pain. My memory is a little bad, but I can not forget that pain"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 211, "turns": ["After a counseling session at school, the counselor agreed with me to come back sometime this week, but I misremembered the time and was 20 minutes late, and by the time I got there the counselor had already left. Then there was always a very uncomfortable feeling that I had stood someone up, but there was no way to explain it to her because she didn't have counseling time later, and it felt hard, and it always made me feel like I was a bad person, and I felt that the counselor must have been angry with me, and I originally wanted to talk to her about this kind of similar problems, about my own mistakes that led to low self-esteem and self-criticism I had wanted to talk to her about the same kind of problems, such as low self-esteem and self-criticism due to mistakes I had made, as well as fear of relationships and social disorders, excessive concern for other people's opinions, and the feeling that people must hate me. But it's impossible to talk to her again, and I feel sorry and regretful that I have to re-establish trust and understanding again if I book another consultation. And I feel like I make mistakes all the time, and this feeling also makes me suffer."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 212, "turns": ["I always dare not resist injustice. If others deliberately offend me, I do not dare to fight back or being retaliated against. If they quarrel with me, I will be nervous to do not know what to say."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 213, "turns": ["Can a person who has established a stable ego live year-round without support and encouragement? There is a view that we need the support of others throughout our lives. So if a person with a good self-relationship can live all the time with a lack of support? Or does the ego relationship break down without someone around to support it"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 214, "turns": ["Perhaps because of personality reasons, friends around me love to share their things with me. I personally tend to be more relaxed when alone, and will not often share my own things to others, and I am not actually interested in other people's things. But every time a friend share with me, I will be polite to ask themselves and reply seriously even if I am not interested or even if it is very annoying, so that I feel very tired. At the same time it also strengthen the desire of my friends to share with me. Now basically every day from the moment I get a lot of messages, most of the time down the day I am returning messages, many of my plans are disrupted and particularly tired, what should I do?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 215, "turns": ["I've read that intimate relationships are beneficial to physical and mental health, but how can people with Asperger's and autism mental disorders develop the ability to develop intimate relationships?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 216, "turns": ["I'm 32 years old, always living with my parents, and now unmarried. Recently I had a boyfriend, and he said I have to live independently and I am immature. I think it is quite right, so I plan to move. My family also bought me a house, but I know if my mother will agree that I live alone or not, how to convince my mother?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 217, "turns": ["I'm post-80s. My mom always dismissed me and never ended with encouragement or praise, no matter how I fed back or communicated. So I've always stayed away from her because it's stifling to stay together, and after a few days, I feel like crap. I'm powerless to change her, no matter what I say, she's still her, and no matter what I ask for, she still won't change. Outsiders say you have to understand, but why did I have to go through decades of this verbal violence?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 218, "turns": ["The other day at home my mother was cooking and I was having a conversation. I suddenly saw my mother's face and forgot who she was...face to face communication is also very strange, as if I have never seen my mother's face. Yesterday, when I was making out with my boyfriend, I suddenly looked into his eyes and forgot what relationship I had with this man, and was very unfamiliar with him. I don't know him at all. I want to stay away from him. It's really embarrassing. I don't know how this happens so often"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 219, "turns": ["I want to be good and excellent. But when I'm with good people, I feel inferior and want to run away. I feel that I have very little discipline, I can't stick to it, I can't concentrate, and I easily give up halfway through everything. And in order to show my ability, I often exaggerate my half-baked skills to gain the attention and appreciation of others. I often behave in a nervous manner to cover up my shameful behavior"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 220, "turns": ["I don't know myself. For example, I like dogs and spent $2,000 on a golden dog. Within a day, I wanted to sell the dog. For example, I want to fight very well and want to gain the power to protect others. I then spent $4,000 to enroll in sparring classes. But then I found out that I really don't like sparring. So I was miserable and torn. I set my ideal side of myself on a high pedestal, but I didn't have the strength to do my ideal self. And yet I hate myself for not being able to achieve my ideal self. Every day is an internal conflict, do not know what to learn, what to do."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 221, "turns": ["Whether it's a group chat or a private chat, why is it that when people don't respond to me anymore, I keep looking at the chat and waiting for others to reply. I reply to people no matter how busy I am. Sometimes, for example, at night, I just keep waiting and sleep. What should I do?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 222, "turns": ["How can I tell if I really trust my counselor? I have been working with this counselor for over a year. Recently, I suspect that I may not trust her enough because of certain factors, including her training, appearance, etc., and I did not get a positive response from her after I had the courage to bring it up to her. At one point I suspected that she was not handling her self-exposure well and didn't dare to bring it up to her directly for fear that she would be sad. I would like to ask how to determine if I trust my counselor enough and if there are some basic guidelines? And how do I handle it and do I need to consider changing counselors? Thank you!"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 223, "turns": ["I have a very close friend. She was left with severe separation anxiety from her childhood, resulting in severe clinginess, lack of confidence, and needing me to keep tabs on her status. She even asks to share a bed with me and touch each other's bodies when we are both same-sex adults and have no homosexual tendencies. Personally, I am avoidant, so I felt stifled and uncomfortable. But whenever I objected to this, she would be extremely sad and unable to communicate. And this definitely gave her a second injury. I feel guilty, but I still don't think I should feel free to ignore my feelings. Now I am in complete conflict with her basic demands - she needs my attention and I want to have enough personal space. What can I do to improve this relationship, given the many attempts at communication that have not improved? I would like to help her reconcile with herself if I can, but if not, I would at least like to exit the relationship without causing her any harm"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 224, "turns": ["I am a self-tested as a BPD patient and hope to stabilize my emotions through medication. What should I do?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 225, "turns": ["My wife wants to divorce, but in the process of getting it back I found out that she has been cheating on me for six months. I did not pick it out, and I am still trying. I love her and I think I must have unshirkable responsibility, but now she does not want to communicate with me, what should I do now?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 226, "turns": ["I lived with my mother, but as I became an adult, I don't really understand her lifestyle. She was very demanding about housework. I don't feel dirty at all when she thinks the house is dirty. And she demanded that I clean in the way she did and often accused me of not cleaning. She often criticizes me with selfishness, saying that she shouldn't live in the world and that we should live separately and so on. She would also yell and cry, and could even cry three or four times a day. If I strongly resisted, she would do things like slamming doors and slapping herself. I remember when I was little she would even take a knife out and throw it on the floor, which cast a big shadow on me. Now I am very sensitive to her emotions and am afraid of her crying."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 227, "turns": ["My mother was so controlling that she would be scolded if I didn't get her way; my parents had an extremely poor relationship, and quarrels and fights were common. I was insecure and the slightest thing would cause strong and persistent anxiety. I was so controlled by my mother that I had no motivation to socialize with others or to get married."], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 228, "turns": ["I have always believed in the existence of ghosts and monsters in the world, and I have been particularly timid since I was a child. I am now a senior in college, but if I sleep in a room by myself, I must turn on the light to illuminate the whole house. I'm also scared to walk in the dark by myself because I think night is the time when ghosts will appear. Not only is it dark, but I am also afraid of animals. Small dogs and cats that people on the other side like, but I feel that they may be aggressive to me. Especially puppies. I have been afraid of dogs since I was a child. When I grow up the fear diminishes, but it still haunts me. Also I am very sensitive to sounds and sudden movements in the silence. Especially when I am by myself, the slightest sound can make me feel like an enemy. I wonder if this is purely cowardly or because of a psychological problem?"], "category": "generic"}
{"question_id": 229, "turns": ["I see that the power structure in my family is: my mother's relatives > my mother > my father and I. This gives me a very bad fantasy that my mother will exploit my father and me to serve my mother's family (although this does not happen or has not really happened in reality). From a moral and emotional point of view, one should not think this way, but my subconscious seems to think this way, so how can I understand this feeling and make adjustments?"], "category": "generic"}