GH-34479: [Java] java-jars failing due to conflicting slf4j bindings (#34480)

### Describe the bug, including details regarding any error messages, version, and platform.

Example failure build: https://github.com/ursacomputing/crossbow/actions/runs/4341450290/jobs/7582202736

> SLF4J: Class path contains multiple SLF4J bindings.
> SLF4J: Found binding in [jar:file:/Users/runner/.m2/repository/org/slf4j/slf4j-reload4j/1.7.36/slf4j-reload4j-1.7.36.jar!/org/slf4j/impl/StaticLoggerBinder.class]
> SLF4J: Found binding in [jar:file:/Users/runner/.m2/repository/ch/qos/logback/logback-classic/1.2.3/logback-classic-1.2.3.jar!/org/slf4j/impl/StaticLoggerBinder.class]
> SLF4J: See http://www.slf4j.org/codes.html#multiple_bindings for an explanation.
> SLF4J: Detected both log4j-over-slf4j.jar AND bound slf4j-reload4j.jar on the class path, preempting StackOverflowError. 
> SLF4J: See also http://www.slf4j.org/codes.html#log4jDelegationLoop for more details.

Caused by apache/arrow#13861, hadoop-common 3.3.3 added dependency on reload4j( https://hadoop.apache.org/docs/r3.3.3/hadoop-project-dist/hadoop-common/release/3.3.3/RELEASENOTES.3.3.3.html). We should exclude slf4j-reload4j as suggested on the release note.

### Component(s)

Java
* Closes: #34479

Authored-by: Jin Shang <shangjin1997@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: David Li <li.davidm96@gmail.com>

Author: js8544

adapter/orc/pom.xml

@@ -10,7 +10,9 @@
     OF ANY KIND, either express or implied. See the License for the specific
     language governing permissions and limitations under the License. -->
 
-<project xmlns="http://maven.apache.org/POM/4.0.0" xmlns:xsi="http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema-instance" xsi:schemaLocation="http://maven.apache.org/POM/4.0.0 http://maven.apache.org/xsd/maven-4.0.0.xsd">
+<project xmlns="http://maven.apache.org/POM/4.0.0"
+    xmlns:xsi="http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema-instance"
+    xsi:schemaLocation="http://maven.apache.org/POM/4.0.0 http://maven.apache.org/xsd/maven-4.0.0.xsd">
     <modelVersion>4.0.0</modelVersion>
     <dependencies>
         <dependency>
@@ -91,6 +93,14 @@
                     <groupId>javax.servlet</groupId>
                     <artifactId>servlet-api</artifactId>
                 </exclusion>
+                <exclusion>
+                    <groupId>org.slf4j</groupId>
+                    <artifactId>slf4j-reload4j</artifactId>
+                </exclusion>
+                <exclusion>
+                    <groupId>ch.qos.reload4j</groupId>
+                    <artifactId>reload4j</artifactId>
+                </exclusion>
             </exclusions>
         </dependency>
         <dependency>