primitive sorting can be improved and more consistent with and without limit if sorted unstably

[jimexist]

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use sort_unstable_by in primitive sorting so that we can have:

1. better memory footprint
2. faster sort
3. consistent stableness behavior with and without limit

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use sort_unstable_by in primitive sorting

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