Use the upstream arrow-rs coalesce kernel (#17193)

## Which issue does this PR close?

Use the upstream arrow-rs coalesce kernel, and support
LimitedBatchCoalesce for datafusion

## Rationale for this change

Use the upstream arrow-rs coalesce kernel, also it will support
LimitedBatchCoalesce for datafusion. There are some future work based
this, for example [Push limit into joins
](#18295) which will optimize
join.

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Co-authored-by: Andrew Lamb <andrew@nerdnetworks.org>
Co-authored-by: Daniël Heres <danielheres@gmail.com>

Author: 3 people