make input wait timeouts in ttyxi customizable; default to 100ms for ssh

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1. We can detect that we are working through the ssh session by
   XDG_SESSION_TYPE env var set to "tty'. in all other cases (local use) we can set ttyxi x11 input wait timeout to 100ms to avoid bugs as input delays in gnome terminal on wayland

2. We can add command line option to force the use of exact delay value to be able to work around such issues in furue