[NET-10952] fix cluster dns lookup family to gracefully handle ipv6

[jm96441n]

Description

When creating an envoy cluster the default DNS Lookup Family defaults to AUTO, for inter-cluster communication this is not an issue but when creating a cluster that access external sources (like we do for JWTProviders) this can cause an issue. The AUTO setting prefers using ipv6, so if a user has a cluster that is not setup to handle ipv6 they will get an ipv6 address back for the external source and will be unable to connect.

To handle this we will be using the V4_PREFERRED lookup family when STRICT_DNS is enabled (STRICT_DNS will grab all addresses for the target and attempt to make a host for each and load balance between them).

When
LOGICAL_DNS is enabled (LOGICAL_DNS will grab all the addresses and only use the first when a new connection is needed) we will use the ALL lookup family, which fetches all the ip addresses for a given hostname and cycles through them to find the first one that is reachable using happy eyeballs

If any other DNS Discovery Type is used we fallback to the default of AUTO because envoy ignores the Lookup Family for all other cluster types.

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PR Checklist

• updated test coverage
• external facing docs updated
• appropriate backport labels added
• not a security concern

[missylbytes]

Approved, don't forget the changelog

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