branch-3.0: [Fix](Compaction) Fix delete rowset sleeping when compaction #51482

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Cherry-picked from #51482

[Thearas]

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run buildall

[doris-robot]

TPC-H: Total hot run time: 40143 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpch-tools
Tpch sf100 test result on commit 6f373badd8728c6da0febef0bdbb05f7424ce4b0, data reload: false

------ Round 1 ----------------------------------
q1	17576	6643	6583	6583
q2	2052	172	186	172
q3	10633	1063	1153	1063
q4	10542	743	767	743
q5	7740	2838	2803	2803
q6	214	144	139	139
q7	981	625	620	620
q8	9366	1974	2014	1974
q9	6643	6369	6368	6368
q10	7038	2286	2273	2273
q11	458	265	260	260
q12	383	214	210	210
q13	17802	2976	3015	2976
q14	236	213	202	202
q15	509	460	469	460
q16	508	390	379	379
q17	976	603	582	582
q18	7204	6822	6809	6809
q19	1623	1104	1044	1044
q20	491	210	217	210
q21	4048	3258	3353	3258
q22	1086	1039	1015	1015
Total cold run time: 108109 ms
Total hot run time: 40143 ms

----- Round 2, with runtime_filter_mode=off -----
q1	6588	6598	6540	6540
q2	324	239	235	235
q3	2903	2708	2860	2708
q4	2046	1808	1803	1803
q5	5752	5745	5708	5708
q6	209	129	134	129
q7	2205	1774	1841	1774
q8	3363	3542	3495	3495
q9	8878	8756	8840	8756
q10	3526	3517	3523	3517
q11	588	491	506	491
q12	779	608	628	608
q13	8027	3166	3207	3166
q14	287	283	262	262
q15	507	464	462	462
q16	482	452	436	436
q17	1833	1600	1614	1600
q18	8259	7793	7670	7670
q19	1649	1612	1611	1611
q20	2129	1839	1809	1809
q21	5375	5353	5438	5353
q22	1115	1042	1051	1042
Total cold run time: 66824 ms
Total hot run time: 59175 ms

[doris-robot]

BE UT Coverage Report

Increment line coverage 0.00% (0/2) 🎉

Increment coverage report
Complete coverage report

Category	Coverage
Function Coverage	41.09% (10866/26445)
Line Coverage	31.92% (92893/290993)
Region Coverage	31.01% (47925/154568)
Branch Coverage	27.50% (24556/89308)

[doris-robot]

TPC-DS: Total hot run time: 196656 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpcds-tools
TPC-DS sf100 test result on commit 6f373badd8728c6da0febef0bdbb05f7424ce4b0, data reload: false

query1	1267	910	911	910
query2	6348	2001	1923	1923
query3	10981	4500	4337	4337
query4	61928	28939	23398	23398
query5	5273	471	454	454
query6	418	190	185	185
query7	5466	332	316	316
query8	321	221	229	221
query9	8622	2586	2584	2584
query10	453	266	254	254
query11	17534	15490	15773	15490
query12	162	105	105	105
query13	1439	453	448	448
query14	9792	6627	7307	6627
query15	200	183	178	178
query16	7105	526	461	461
query17	1159	585	632	585
query18	1931	317	344	317
query19	210	165	197	165
query20	119	112	110	110
query21	201	99	102	99
query22	4590	4462	4770	4462
query23	34034	33851	34074	33851
query24	6108	2951	2850	2850
query25	520	473	394	394
query26	640	171	165	165
query27	1809	346	356	346
query28	3767	2187	2146	2146
query29	702	451	442	442
query30	233	155	158	155
query31	988	800	813	800
query32	66	59	61	59
query33	474	282	279	279
query34	893	507	524	507
query35	822	740	728	728
query36	1065	959	970	959
query37	119	70	66	66
query38	4184	3990	3993	3990
query39	1533	1460	1481	1460
query40	215	106	98	98
query41	49	49	46	46
query42	113	105	102	102
query43	516	483	474	474
query44	1179	833	844	833
query45	192	173	181	173
query46	1142	736	739	736
query47	2031	1935	1916	1916
query48	496	398	397	397
query49	773	437	412	412
query50	867	435	437	435
query51	7392	7221	7362	7221
query52	106	93	97	93
query53	262	189	188	188
query54	581	481	477	477
query55	83	87	80	80
query56	280	267	264	264
query57	1292	1166	1172	1166
query58	244	223	227	223
query59	3289	3032	3007	3007
query60	285	272	289	272
query61	157	154	104	104
query62	784	692	689	689
query63	217	193	193	193
query64	1375	664	630	630
query65	3262	3170	3176	3170
query66	700	298	300	298
query67	15954	15681	15734	15681
query68	4148	588	567	567
query69	447	268	266	266
query70	1164	1135	1072	1072
query71	347	259	260	259
query72	6349	4110	4009	4009
query73	740	350	363	350
query74	10510	9317	9173	9173
query75	3345	2692	2639	2639
query76	1919	960	1034	960
query77	507	276	277	276
query78	10599	9605	9507	9507
query79	1530	599	599	599
query80	903	434	441	434
query81	495	227	218	218
query82	1264	92	87	87
query83	246	146	142	142
query84	282	84	75	75
query85	918	305	288	288
query86	336	282	297	282
query87	4367	4368	4228	4228
query88	3853	2369	2352	2352
query89	423	296	284	284
query90	1996	189	187	187
query91	185	151	149	149
query92	63	53	52	52
query93	1969	558	558	558
query94	747	287	303	287
query95	352	265	257	257
query96	601	280	280	280
query97	3349	3093	3138	3093
query98	209	213	199	199
query99	1709	1323	1325	1323
Total cold run time: 313184 ms
Total hot run time: 196656 ms

[doris-robot]

ClickBench: Total hot run time: 30.52 s

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/clickbench-tools
ClickBench test result on commit 6f373badd8728c6da0febef0bdbb05f7424ce4b0, data reload: false

query1	0.03	0.02	0.03
query2	0.06	0.03	0.03
query3	0.23	0.06	0.06
query4	1.62	0.11	0.10
query5	0.52	0.49	0.50
query6	1.15	0.73	0.72
query7	0.02	0.01	0.02
query8	0.05	0.03	0.02
query9	0.55	0.50	0.50
query10	0.54	0.53	0.57
query11	0.14	0.10	0.11
query12	0.14	0.11	0.11
query13	0.61	0.61	0.58
query14	0.76	0.79	0.82
query15	0.85	0.83	0.82
query16	0.39	0.39	0.39
query17	0.96	1.05	1.03
query18	0.25	0.23	0.21
query19	1.84	1.85	1.82
query20	0.01	0.02	0.01
query21	15.39	0.58	0.55
query22	2.74	2.69	2.11
query23	16.91	0.94	0.74
query24	3.62	1.20	1.59
query25	0.15	0.26	0.06
query26	0.51	0.14	0.13
query27	0.06	0.05	0.04
query28	9.39	0.56	0.48
query29	12.59	3.20	3.17
query30	0.25	0.07	0.06
query31	2.87	0.39	0.37
query32	3.26	0.47	0.46
query33	2.94	3.02	3.03
query34	17.11	4.50	4.51
query35	4.58	4.52	4.57
query36	0.65	0.47	0.47
query37	0.09	0.06	0.06
query38	0.04	0.04	0.04
query39	0.04	0.02	0.02
query40	0.17	0.12	0.12
query41	0.08	0.02	0.02
query42	0.03	0.02	0.02
query43	0.03	0.02	0.02
Total cold run time: 104.22 s
Total hot run time: 30.52 s

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