branch-3.1: [fix](nereids) stop merge project when generating huge expression #55293

[yujun777]

cherry pick from #55293

[yujun777]

run buildall

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[yujun777]

run buildall

[doris-robot]

TPC-H: Total hot run time: 32452 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpch-tools
Tpch sf100 test result on commit 347e144adac03bcf5583633219a3b8939e486774, data reload: false

------ Round 1 ----------------------------------
q1	17615	5493	5383	5383
q2	2035	389	286	286
q3	12114	1244	734	734
q4	10537	866	448	448
q5	9621	2380	2118	2118
q6	187	164	129	129
q7	880	728	602	602
q8	9333	1402	1163	1163
q9	5202	4950	4820	4820
q10	6784	2276	1811	1811
q11	484	275	262	262
q12	335	362	210	210
q13	17796	3589	3037	3037
q14	231	224	209	209
q15	513	462	453	453
q16	418	427	379	379
q17	592	850	362	362
q18	7035	6404	6320	6320
q19	1206	948	534	534
q20	309	336	203	203
q21	2759	2129	1990	1990
q22	1026	1017	999	999
Total cold run time: 107012 ms
Total hot run time: 32452 ms

----- Round 2, with runtime_filter_mode=off -----
q1	5482	5468	5469	5468
q2	236	327	243	243
q3	2257	2655	2329	2329
q4	1337	1821	1392	1392
q5	4397	4956	4964	4956
q6	172	165	127	127
q7	2047	1967	1793	1793
q8	2602	2837	2684	2684
q9	7291	7449	7406	7406
q10	3111	3315	2767	2767
q11	592	512	497	497
q12	676	772	635	635
q13	3456	3874	3332	3332
q14	281	301	276	276
q15	527	490	483	483
q16	440	487	439	439
q17	1239	1731	1306	1306
q18	7863	7579	7522	7522
q19	848	1120	1113	1113
q20	2029	2079	1955	1955
q21	5371	4958	4475	4475
q22	1065	1074	1018	1018
Total cold run time: 53319 ms
Total hot run time: 52216 ms

[doris-robot]

TPC-DS: Total hot run time: 193144 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpcds-tools
TPC-DS sf100 test result on commit 347e144adac03bcf5583633219a3b8939e486774, data reload: false

query1	948	397	392	392
query2	6269	1973	1962	1962
query3	8685	209	197	197
query4	33445	23782	23475	23475
query5	3510	610	474	474
query6	304	202	184	184
query7	4227	489	331	331
query8	318	253	237	237
query9	9465	2601	2591	2591
query10	501	326	264	264
query11	18138	15819	15236	15236
query12	169	111	113	111
query13	1590	553	422	422
query14	10005	7336	7069	7069
query15	257	193	177	177
query16	7944	656	510	510
query17	1583	808	591	591
query18	2158	433	305	305
query19	221	184	157	157
query20	116	118	116	116
query21	205	126	105	105
query22	4598	4741	4458	4458
query23	34853	34186	34278	34186
query24	7296	2661	2661	2661
query25	516	479	419	419
query26	883	277	170	170
query27	2311	488	351	351
query28	5313	2244	2210	2210
query29	702	584	451	451
query30	249	189	158	158
query31	998	922	821	821
query32	91	64	57	57
query33	489	375	330	330
query34	775	864	534	534
query35	786	829	751	751
query36	1004	1062	983	983
query37	111	94	73	73
query38	4029	4052	3987	3987
query39	1529	1508	1492	1492
query40	208	117	108	108
query41	54	55	55	55
query42	122	111	109	109
query43	520	524	494	494
query44	1348	855	835	835
query45	187	182	181	181
query46	895	1077	674	674
query47	1979	2015	1955	1955
query48	436	435	357	357
query49	749	510	437	437
query50	683	691	436	436
query51	7434	7321	7221	7221
query52	105	106	96	96
query53	228	268	205	205
query54	557	526	463	463
query55	78	78	78	78
query56	278	281	273	273
query57	1297	1271	1215	1215
query58	230	224	235	224
query59	3044	3149	3128	3128
query60	290	274	268	268
query61	159	119	118	118
query62	815	745	711	711
query63	227	191	191	191
query64	3833	1017	657	657
query65	3332	3301	3327	3301
query66	1123	422	312	312
query67	16539	15952	15804	15804
query68	7650	845	554	554
query69	496	307	271	271
query70	1175	1091	1041	1041
query71	417	297	268	268
query72	5698	3867	3808	3808
query73	628	747	353	353
query74	10252	9363	9153	9153
query75	3918	3177	2609	2609
query76	3353	1152	778	778
query77	758	369	280	280
query78	10283	10303	9641	9641
query79	3608	892	585	585
query80	618	529	441	441
query81	486	258	219	219
query82	572	121	88	88
query83	168	164	147	147
query84	281	110	83	83
query85	766	371	303	303
query86	378	308	272	272
query87	4306	4347	4226	4226
query88	4746	2415	2443	2415
query89	408	328	288	288
query90	1809	189	186	186
query91	147	172	109	109
query92	65	59	52	52
query93	2159	892	552	552
query94	643	399	305	305
query95	344	284	268	268
query96	513	608	291	291
query97	3226	3283	3135	3135
query98	226	205	205	205
query99	1563	1382	1314	1314
Total cold run time: 295001 ms
Total hot run time: 193144 ms

[doris-robot]

ClickBench: Total hot run time: 28.31 s

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/clickbench-tools
ClickBench test result on commit 347e144adac03bcf5583633219a3b8939e486774, data reload: false

query1	0.04	0.03	0.03
query2	0.07	0.03	0.03
query3	0.24	0.07	0.06
query4	1.63	0.10	0.10
query5	0.53	0.50	0.52
query6	1.13	0.72	0.73
query7	0.03	0.02	0.02
query8	0.04	0.03	0.03
query9	0.57	0.51	0.50
query10	0.56	0.54	0.55
query11	0.14	0.10	0.10
query12	0.13	0.11	0.11
query13	0.61	0.60	0.60
query14	0.77	0.79	0.78
query15	0.85	0.84	0.82
query16	0.38	0.38	0.38
query17	1.07	1.07	1.09
query18	0.23	0.22	0.23
query19	1.89	1.87	1.87
query20	0.01	0.01	0.02
query21	15.39	0.91	0.58
query22	0.75	0.84	0.64
query23	15.06	1.48	0.58
query24	3.34	0.49	0.30
query25	0.14	0.09	0.08
query26	0.39	0.16	0.14
query27	0.05	0.04	0.05
query28	12.60	1.13	0.44
query29	12.57	3.87	3.24
query30	0.25	0.08	0.06
query31	2.80	0.60	0.39
query32	3.22	0.53	0.46
query33	3.04	3.03	3.04
query34	16.64	5.16	4.53
query35	4.55	4.52	4.59
query36	0.64	0.50	0.48
query37	0.09	0.05	0.05
query38	0.04	0.03	0.04
query39	0.03	0.03	0.02
query40	0.17	0.13	0.13
query41	0.08	0.03	0.03
query42	0.04	0.02	0.02
query43	0.03	0.03	0.03
Total cold run time: 102.83 s
Total hot run time: 28.31 s

[yujun777]

run nonConcurrent

[yujun777]

run nonConcurrent