reimplement fix for akka/pekko cluster #840

Job	Run time
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster/test distributed-data/test cluster-tools/test cluster-metri...	9m 7s
JDK 8 / Scala 2.12.x	57m 51s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster-sharding/test)	9m 1s
JDK 11 / Scala 2.12.x	1h 10m 32s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster-typed/test cluster-sharding-typed/test)	8m 50s
JDK 17 / Scala 2.12.x	56m 54s
Pekko Cluster Metrics Test with Sigar	7m 20s
JDK 21 / Scala 2.12.x	59m 58s
JDK 8 / Scala 2.13.x	58m 25s
JDK 11 / Scala 2.13.x	1h 7m 24s
JDK 17 / Scala 2.13.x	56m 17s
JDK 21 / Scala 2.13.x	1h 0m 6s
JDK 8 / Scala 3.3.x	58m 26s
JDK 11 / Scala 3.3.x	1h 5m 47s
JDK 17 / Scala 3.3.x	56m 24s
JDK 21 / Scala 3.3.x	59m 22s
	12h 41m 44s

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