release-20.1: kvserver: sync cluster version setting to store

[tbg]

Backport 1/1 commits from #55240.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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Writes to a storage.Engine are not sync'ed by default, meaning that
they can get lost due to an ill-timed crash.

Fixes #54906.

(The backport will take care of #54908).

Release note (bug fix): a rare scenario in which a node would refuse
to start after updating the binary was fixed. The log message would
indicate: "store [...], last used with cockroach version [...], is too
old for running version [...] (which requires data from [...] or
later)".

[cockroach-teamcity]

This change is 

[petermattis]

Reviewable status: complete! 1 of 0 LGTMs obtained (waiting on @petermattis)

[tbg]

@petermattis

 --- FAIL: TestRemoveDeadReplicas/2/4/r=4 (10.44s)
        debug_test.go:292: could not open rocksdb instance: Corruption: Sequence numbers in WAL not in increasing order: 8759 < 8767

@jordanlewis

------- Stdout: -------
=== RUN   TestLogic/local/prepare/24578
rewrote:
CREATE TABLE xy (x INT8 PRIMARY KEY, y INT8, FAMILY (y), FAMILY (x));
CREATE TABLE ab (a INT8 PRIMARY KEY, b INT8, FAMILY (a, b));
INSERT INTO ab VALUES (1, 1), (2, 2);


--- total progress: 7508 statements/queries
            --- FAIL: TestLogic/local/prepare/24578 (12.74s)
                logic.go:1854: 
                     
                    testdata/logic_test/prepare:913: EXECUTE pg_catalog_query
                    expected:
                        seqrelid  seqtypid  seqstart  seqincrement  seqmax               seqmin  seqcache  seqcycle
                        67        20        1         1             9223372036854775807  1       1         false
                        
                    but found (query options: "colnames") :
                        seqrelid  seqtypid  seqstart  seqincrement  seqmax               seqmin  seqcache  seqcycle
                        68        20        1         1             9223372036854775807  1       1         false
                        
                    
                logic.go:1412: 
                     testdata/logic_test/prepare:919: too many errors encountered, skipping the rest of the input

[tbg]

@petermattis all of these

are also:

E201013 14:27:53.425255 1 cli/error.go:373 ERROR: cockroach server exited with error: failed to create engines: could not open rocksdb instance: Corruption: Sequence numbers in WAL not in increasing order: 1813 < 1818

[tbg]

#55746