joberror: add ConnectionReset/ConnectionRefused to retryable err allow list

[adityamaru]

Bulk jobs will no longer treat sysutil.IsErrConnectionReset
and sysutil.IsErrConnectionRefused as permanent errors. IMPORT,
RESTORE and BACKUP will treat this error as transient and retry.

Release note: None

[cockroach-teamcity]

This change is 

[adityamaru]

Bazel failure is a random package timeout 😢

bors r=miretskiy

[craig]

Build succeeded:

• GitHub CI (Cockroach)

[blathers-crl]

Encountered an error creating backports. Some common things that can go wrong:

1. The backport branch might have already existed.
2. There was a merge conflict.
3. The backport branch contained merge commits.

You might need to create your backport manually using the backport tool.

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error creating merge commit from 5033bb4 to blathers/backport-release-21.1-80762: POST https://api.github.com/repos/cockroachdb/cockroach/merges: 409 Merge conflict []

you may need to manually resolve merge conflicts with the backport tool.

Backport to branch 21.1.x failed. See errors above.

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error creating merge commit from 5033bb4 to blathers/backport-release-21.2-80762: POST https://api.github.com/repos/cockroachdb/cockroach/merges: 409 Merge conflict []

you may need to manually resolve merge conflicts with the backport tool.

Backport to branch 21.2.x failed. See errors above.

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