Update cibuildwheel to 2.17.0, build macos-arm64 wheel on native runners

[mkoeppe]

@tkralphs This is a possible full solution for #193.

Since early this year, GitHub actually has macOS M1 runners, so we can build the arm64 wheels there

[tkralphs]

Indeed, I was able to install these wheels on my M1-based Mac!

[mkoeppe]

Thanks for testing!

[tkralphs]

Actually, do we want to specify macos-13, rather than macos-latest to make sure we get intel-based wheels, too? According to the cibuildwheel documentation, macos-14 (and presumably later/latest) are all arm64, whereas macos-13 are all x86_64.

[mkoeppe]

Note currently macos-latest is macos-12 per
https://docs.github.com/en/actions/using-github-hosted-runners/about-github-hosted-runners/about-github-hosted-runners#standard-github-hosted-runners-for-public-repositories

[tkralphs]

Hmm, that's a different definition of "latest" than I would expect, but in any case, I would think "latest" will eventually mean "Apple Silicon," somewhere down the road.