refactor: load parquet use own can_cast_to()

[youngsofun]

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Summary

This PR updates the dependency from Arrow’s can_cast_types to our own can_cast_to() function.

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[b41sh]

seems put src_type on left is more customary.

[youngsofun]

the comments explain the reason.

// we mainly care about which types can/cannot cast to dest_type.
// the match is written in a way to make it easier to read this info.

[youngsofun]

To be more specific, our use case is as follows: we have a dest type and several src types. We need to determine if the cast between them is valid.

and for each case (row), there is only one dest and multi src, so put dest in front is more alined and readable