DRIVERS-2524 fix commandStarted events with encryptionInformation

[kevinAlbs]

Summary

• Add escCollection and ecocCollection to the outgoing encryptionInformation in command_started_event.
• Add ordered: true to update and delete in command_started_event.

This PR is a follow-up fix to #1396

Background & motivation

db.runCommand({create: "foo", encryptedFields: {fields: []}}) will apply the default values for escCollection, ecocCollection. The default values are included in the response to listCollections. This results in the escCollection and ecocCollection being present in the outgoing encryptionInformation. See example with mongosh.

The C driver match logic currently permits all extra unmatched fields in the actual event. Tests were verified locally with a modified version of the C driver to prohibit extra fields. Tests were verified on Evergreen with an unmodified C driver: https://spruce.mongodb.com/version/643f19ade3c33120b01ba291

The YAML extend << was used to add escCollection and ecocCollection to the encrypted_fields reference. This required changing some JSON command_started_events to YAML.

Please complete the following before merging:

• [ ] Update changelog. Not applicable. Test changes only
• Make sure there are generated JSON files from the YAML test files.
• Test changes in at least one language driver.
• [ ] Test these changes against all server versions and topologies (including standalone, replica set, sharded clusters, and serverless). Tested against replica set and standalone. C driver currently does not test CSFLE/QE with sharded cluster or serverless

[DmitryLukyanov]

LGTM