Cap maximum shard size at the size of an integer

Supercedes dask#5134

Copying over the summary of that PR

Works around the OpenSSL 1.0.2 bug demonstrated in issue ( dask#4538 ), except unlike PR ( dask#5115 ) which did this for reading, this does the same thing for writing. The error may be less likely to show up in the write path (as frames may simply be smaller than this limit). Still it seems like a good idea to protect against OverflowErrors from OpenSSL

distributed/comm/tcp.py

@@ -145,6 +145,8 @@ class TCP(Comm):
     An established communication based on an underlying Tornado IOStream.
     """
 
+    max_shard_size = dask.utils.parse_bytes(dask.config.get("distributed.comm.shard"))
+
     def __init__(self, stream, local_addr, peer_addr, deserialize=True):
         self._closed = False
         Comm.__init__(self)
@@ -248,6 +250,7 @@ async def write(self, msg, serializers=None, on_error="message"):
                 "recipient": self.remote_info,
                 **self.handshake_options,
             },
+            frame_split_size=self.max_shard_size,
         )
         frames_nbytes = [nbytes(f) for f in frames]
         frames_nbytes_total = sum(frames_nbytes)
@@ -335,6 +338,8 @@ class TLS(TCP):
     A TLS-specific version of TCP.
     """
 
+    max_shard_size = min(C_INT_MAX, TCP.max_shard_size)
+
     def _read_extra(self):
         TCP._read_extra(self)
         sock = self.stream.socket