Expose jupyter's preferred dir as a config option

[krassowski]

Reference Issues or PRs

Closes #2250

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• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New feature (non-breaking change which adds a feature)
• Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing features not to work as expected)
• Documentation Update: Document jupyterlab.preferred_dir nebari-docs#408
• Code style update (formatting, renaming)
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[aktech]

Looks good to me.