BUG: DataFrame.describe include/exclude do not work for arrow datatypes

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Reproducible Example

>>> df = pd.DataFrame({"A": pd.Series([1,2,3], dtype=pd.ArrowDtype(pa.int8())), "B": pd.Series([1,2,3], dtype=pd.ArrowDtype(pa.int16()))})
>>> df.describe(include=pd.ArrowDtype(pa.int8()))
         A    B
count  3.0  3.0
mean   2.0  2.0
std    1.0  1.0
min    1.0  1.0
25%    1.5  1.5
50%    2.0  2.0
75%    2.5  2.5
max    3.0  3.0
>>>

Issue Description

Only describe for column "A" should have been calculated, because it's the only int8 column in the dataframe.

Expected Behavior

Expected behavior is behavior with numpy types:

>>> df = pd.DataFrame({"A": pd.Series([1,2,3], dtype=np.dtype("int8")), "B": pd.Series([1,2,3], dtype=np.dtype("int16"))})
>>> df.describe(include=np.dtype("int8"))
         A
count  3.0
mean   2.0
std    1.0
min    1.0
25%    1.5
50%    2.0
75%    2.5
max    3.0
>>>

This only calculates describe for column "A".

Installed Versions

pd.show_versions()

INSTALLED VERSIONS

commit : 478d340
python : 3.8.10.final.0
python-bits : 64
OS : Windows
OS-release : 10
Version : 10.0.22621
machine : AMD64
processor : Intel64 Family 6 Model 85 Stepping 7, GenuineIntel
byteorder : little
LC_ALL : None
LANG : None
LOCALE : English_United States.1252

pandas : 2.0.0
numpy : 1.24.2
pytz : 2023.3
dateutil : 2.8.2
setuptools : 67.5.1
pip : 23.0.1
Cython : None
pytest : 7.0.1
hypothesis : None
sphinx : 4.2.0
blosc : None
feather : None
xlsxwriter : None
lxml.etree : None
html5lib : None
pymysql : None
psycopg2 : None
jinja2 : 3.1.2
IPython : 8.12.0
pandas_datareader: None
bs4 : 4.12.0
bottleneck : None
brotli : None
fastparquet : None
fsspec : None
gcsfs : None
matplotlib : None
numba : None
numexpr : None
odfpy : None
openpyxl : None
pandas_gbq : None
pyarrow : 11.0.0
pyreadstat : None
pyxlsb : None
s3fs : None
scipy : None
snappy : None
sqlalchemy : None
tables : None
tabulate : 0.8.9
xarray : None
xlrd : None
zstandard : None
tzdata : 2023.3
qtpy : None
pyqt5 : None