executor: check memory limit before expand string set in HashAgg

[wshwsh12]

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: ref #35635
close #40648

Problem Summary:

What is changed and how it works?

In hashagg finalworker, GroupSet maybe expand and use more than many GB.
The memory usage should track before expand, to avoid OOM.

Check List

Tests

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Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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TiDB MergeCI notify

🔴 Bad News! New failing [1] after this pr merged.
These new failed integration tests seem to be caused by the current PR, please try to fix these new failed integration tests, thanks!

CI Name	Result	Duration	Compare with Parent commit
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-ddl-test	🟥 failed 1, success 5, total 6	7 min 2 sec	New failing
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-common-test	🔴 failed 3, success 14, total 17	15 min	Existing failure
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/common-test	🔴 failed 2, success 9, total 11	13 min	Existing failure
idc-jenkins-ci/integration-cdc-test	🟢 all 36 tests passed	36 min	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/tics-test	🟢 all 1 tests passed	8 min 30 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/sqllogic-test-2	🟢 all 28 tests passed	6 min 53 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/sqllogic-test-1	🟢 all 26 tests passed	5 min 32 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/mybatis-test	🟢 all 1 tests passed	3 min 33 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-compatibility-test	🟢 all 1 tests passed	3 min 2 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/plugin-test	🟢 build success, plugin test success	4min	Existing passed