util: add lock for MergeBasicStats

[mengxin9014]

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #38994

Problem Summary:

What is changed and how it works?

Fix panic cause by concurrent map iteration and write in memory usage alarm by adding lock for MergeBasicStats

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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add lock for MergeBasicStats.

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[hawkingrei]

/merge

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This pull request has been accepted and is ready to merge.

Commit hash: 95b20e7

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In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created: #39040.

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TiDB MergeCI notify

🔴 Bad News! [2] CI still failing after this pr merged.
These failed integration tests don't seem to be introduced by the current PR.

CI Name	Result	Duration	Compare with Parent commit
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-ddl-test	🔴 failed 1, success 5, total 6	48 min	Existing failure
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/mybatis-test	🔴 failed 1, success 0, total 1	16 min	Existing failure
idc-jenkins-ci/integration-cdc-test	🟢 all 39 tests passed	28 min	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/tics-test	🟢 all 1 tests passed	20 min	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-common-test	🟢 all 17 tests passed	20 min	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/common-test	🟢 all 11 tests passed	12 min	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/sqllogic-test-2	🟢 all 28 tests passed	10 min	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/sqllogic-test-1	🟢 all 26 tests passed	7 min 34 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-compatibility-test	🟢 all 1 tests passed	6 min 56 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/plugin-test	🟢 build success, plugin test success	4min	Existing passed