executor: fix tidb crash when shuffleExec quit unexpectedly (#48828)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #48828

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #48230

Problem Summary:

What changed and how does it work?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
  Test issue Tidb crashes when sql with shuffleExec quit unexpectedly #48230 by manual
• No need to test

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Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

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• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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Fix tidb crash when shuffleExec quit unexpectedly

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Timeline:

• 2024-04-02 08:27:05.920613441 +0000 UTC m=+346087.448153987: ☑️ agreed by XuHuaiyu.
• 2024-04-02 09:01:34.144949683 +0000 UTC m=+348155.672490223: ☑️ agreed by guo-shaoge.

[wshwsh12]

/retest