executor: fix deadlock in dml statement with cte when oom panic action was triggered (#49192)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #49192

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #49096

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What changed and how does it work?

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• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

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• Contains syntax changes
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• Changes MySQL compatibility

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 executor: fix deadlock in dml statement with cte when oom panic action was triggered

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Timeline:

• 2023-12-06 06:50:54.347021799 +0000 UTC m=+1596683.012247996: ☑️ agreed by AilinKid.
• 2023-12-06 07:01:56.468242371 +0000 UTC m=+1597345.133468565: ☑️ agreed by guo-shaoge.

[hawkingrei]

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[hawkingrei]

/retest