cdc/sink: adjust kafka initialization logic (#3192)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #3192

What problem does this PR solve?

close #3337

This is part work of making Kafka GA. Contain the following:

• Refine the logic of creating topic
• Make some variable become a field of the Config, which would be helpful if we would support one producer per topic in the future since this group producer parameters together.
• Bugfix
  • If auto-create-topic disable by the user, the partition count will not be checked.
  • before create the topic, make sure broker's message.max.bytes not less than max-message-bytes

What is changed and how it works?

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Tests

• Unit test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)

Code changes

• Has exported function/method change
• Has exported variable/fields change
• Has interface methods change
• Has persistent data change

Side effects

• Possible performance regression
• Increased code complexity
• Breaking backward compatibility

Related changes

• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch
• Need to update the documentation
• Need to update key monitor metrics in both TiCDC document and official document

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