sink(cdc): fix the bug that mq sink can lost callbacks (#9852)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #9852

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #9855

What is changed and how it works?

When errors happen in MQSink.WriteEvents, the backend sink should be canceled correctly. Otherwise the table can lost callbacks forever.

Check List

Tests

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Questions

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