feat: move some cmake options to build section

[henryiii]

Fix #747.

[codecov]

Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 84.00000% with 4 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 82.01%. Comparing base (2942230) to head (735b665).
Report is 83 commits behind head on main.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
...cikit_build_core/settings/skbuild_read_settings.py	78.94%	4 Missing ⚠️

Additional details and impacted files

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  Coverage   82.00%   82.01%           
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  Files          68       68           
  Lines        3935     3958   +23     
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+ Hits         3227     3246   +19     
- Misses        708      712    +4     

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