feat: show vite error overlay for unhandled errors during load

[dummdidumm]

closes #9704

WIP, this is merely a POC at this point. Since the hook stuff is now encapsulated in the Server class, we need to pass in something from the dev server to hook into the error. Not nice, but works.
What doesn't work yet is seing these errors when handleError is invoked in the client.

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[coryvirok]

This would be helpful :)

[benmccann]

I'm not sure if it'd affect this or not, but I found a bug where the vite overlay client sometimes doesn't load if the error occurs too early in the middleware stack. I sent a fix for that here: vitejs/vite#17419