KokkosKernels: restore size_t as default offset in Tribits builds

Partially revert the change in 4.4.0 release that made int the default offset
type instead of size_t. This restores size_t as the default for
Trilinos/Tribits builds only.

This is the same patch as KK 2313.

packages/kokkos-kernels/cmake/kokkoskernels_eti_offsets.cmake

@@ -1,5 +1,15 @@
-SET(KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_SIZE_T_DEFAULT OFF)
-SET(KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_INT_DEFAULT ${KOKKOSKERNELS_ADD_DEFAULT_ETI})
+IF(KOKKOSKERNELS_HAS_TRILINOS)
+  # In a Trilinos build, size_t is the default offset because this is what Tpetra uses
+  # TODO: update this when Tpetra can use different offsets
+  SET(KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_SIZE_T_DEFAULT ${KOKKOSKERNELS_ADD_DEFAULT_ETI})
+  SET(KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_INT_DEFAULT OFF)
+ELSE()
+  # But in a standalone KokkosKernels build, int is the default offset type
+  # This provides the maximum TPL compatibility
+  SET(KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_SIZE_T_DEFAULT OFF)
+  SET(KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_INT_DEFAULT ${KOKKOSKERNELS_ADD_DEFAULT_ETI})
+ENDIF()
+
 SET(OFFSETS
   OFFSET_INT
   OFFSET_SIZE_T
@@ -12,14 +22,14 @@ KOKKOSKERNELS_ADD_OPTION(
   INST_OFFSET_INT
   ${KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_INT_DEFAULT}
   BOOL
-  "Whether to pre instantiate kernels for the offset type int.  This option is KokkosKernels_INST_OFFSET_INT=OFF by default. Default: OFF"
+  "Whether to pre instantiate kernels for the offset type int.  This option is KokkosKernels_INST_OFFSET_INT=OFF by default. Default: ${KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_INT_DEFAULT}"
   )
 
 KOKKOSKERNELS_ADD_OPTION(
   INST_OFFSET_SIZE_T
   ${KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_SIZE_T_DEFAULT}
   BOOL
-  "Whether to pre instantiate kernels for the offset type size_t.  This option is KokkosKernels_INST_OFFSET_SIZE_T=ON by default. Default: ON"
+  "Whether to pre instantiate kernels for the offset type size_t.  This option is KokkosKernels_INST_OFFSET_SIZE_T=ON by default. Default: ${KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_SIZE_T_DEFAULT}"
   )
 
 IF (KOKKOSKERNELS_INST_OFFSET_INT)