improve node deletion in hive (#7218)

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Changelog entry

improve node deletion in hive

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Additional information

• Delete nodes even when hive restarts between their disconnect and the time they are allowed to be deleted. Relevant for instance group update.
• Set default node delete period = node broker epoch

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Test history | Test log

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
40043	34780	0	6	5215	42

🟢 2024-10-14 14:09:26 UTC ydbd size 8.2 GiB changed* by +13.0 KiB, which is < 100.0 KiB vs stable-24-3: OK

ydbd size dash	stable-24-3: f6729a6	merge: b8c4d0c	diff	diff %
ydbd size	8 809 812 312 Bytes	8 809 825 576 Bytes	+13.0 KiB	+0.000%
ydbd stripped size	481 749 000 Bytes	481 750 536 Bytes	+1.5 KiB	+0.000%

^{*please be aware that the difference is based on comparing your commit and the last completed build from the post-commit, check comparation}

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⚪ 2024-10-14 11:19:05 UTC Pre-commit check for b8c4d0c has started.
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🔴 2024-10-14 14:06:16 UTC Some tests failed, follow the links below.

Test history | Test log

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
11493	11409	0	11	26	47

🟢 2024-10-14 14:07:02 UTC ydbd size 5.5 GiB changed* by +16.9 KiB, which is < 100.0 KiB vs stable-24-3: OK

ydbd size dash	stable-24-3: f6729a6	merge: b8c4d0c	diff	diff %
ydbd size	5 956 818 096 Bytes	5 956 835 408 Bytes	+16.9 KiB	+0.000%
ydbd stripped size	1 495 164 896 Bytes	1 495 167 136 Bytes	+2.2 KiB	+0.000%

^{*please be aware that the difference is based on comparing your commit and the last completed build from the post-commit, check comparation}