fix(iam): oidc-provider can't pull from hosts requiring SNI (#13397)

This enables SNI when the oidcProvider tries to pull the thumbprint from a server in the downloadThumbprint function.  This fixes issues when trying to add an oidcProvider that is using SNI.

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packages/@aws-cdk/aws-iam/lib/oidc-provider/external.ts

@@ -28,7 +28,7 @@ async function downloadThumbprint(issuerUrl: string) {
     if (!purl.host) {
       return ko(new Error(`unable to determine host from issuer url ${issuerUrl}`));
     }
-    const socket = tls.connect(port, purl.host, { rejectUnauthorized: false });
+    const socket = tls.connect(port, purl.host, { rejectUnauthorized: false, servername: purl.host });
     socket.once('error', ko);
     socket.once('secureConnect', () => {
       const cert = socket.getPeerCertificate();