lib: make failed addon loading more informative

[aqrln]

• Make common.safeRequire print the reason of failed require() to
  stderr. The error wasn't passed anywhere so the reason was lost
  and could not be delivered to user. When the Record Serialization
  parser could not load its native addon, it always stated that it
  isn't built though the actual reason might be different.

• Fix somewhat misleading language in the error message in
  lib/record-serialization.js. The addon is not only used on server.

For example, when the addon was compiled with a wrong version of
node-gyp, JSTP used to print:

JSTP native addon is not built. Run npm install in order to build
it, otherwise you will get poor server performance under load.

and it continued to print the same message however many times npm install was invoked, which is certainly not very helpful.

Now the error message in the same situation looks like this:

Error: The module
'/Users/alex/projects/metarhia/JSTP/build/Release/jstp.node'
was compiled against a different Node.js version using
NODE_MODULE_VERSION 51. This version of Node.js requires
NODE_MODULE_VERSION 53. Please try re-compiling or re-installing
the module (for instance, using npm rebuild or npm install).
Error: Cannot find module '../build/Debug/jstp'
JSTP native addon is not built or is not functional. Run npm install
in order to build it, otherwise you will get poor performance.

and is certainly more helpful since it contains an obvious reference to
ABI incompatibility and makes it possible to troubleshoot it.

[belochub]

LGTM

[aqrln]

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