executor: fix negative consumedbyte for hashRowcontainer (#50843)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #50843

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #50841

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• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

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• Changes MySQL compatibility

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Fix the issue that goroutine leak when hashJoin triggered spill and sql failed

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• 2024-02-03 14:33:59.691918791 +0000 UTC m=+21765.258688680: ☑️ agreed by AilinKid.
• 2024-02-05 07:48:38.004779974 +0000 UTC m=+170243.571549888: ☑️ agreed by guo-shaoge.