executor: fix tidb crash when calling Close and Finish (#54390)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #54390

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #54335

Problem Summary: ref #52882

What changed and how does it work?

1. Move the finishLock to tidbResultSet to protect Close() and Finish().
2. Clear SQLKiller.Finish() when writeResultSet finished.

Bug Analyze:
interface:resultSet.ResultSet           -> {RecordSet}       -> {RecordSet}
struct   :tidbResultSet                 -> execStmtResult   -> recordSet

calling chain:

main goroutine: tidbResultSet.Close  ->  execStmtResultSet.Close  ->  execStmtResultSet.Finish() 
                                                                 ->  recordSet.Close                -> recordSet.Finish()
                                                                                                    -> recordSet.CleanWork
                                                                 ->  execStmtResultSet.CleanWork
                                     -> tidbResultSet.CleanWork(race)


kill goroutine: tidbResultSet.Finish(race) ->  execStmtResultSet.Finish ->  recordSet.Finish

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  • I checked and no code files have been changed.

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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Timeline:

• 2024-07-03 09:44:37.68535544 +0000 UTC m=+1404004.170844265: ☑️ agreed by guo-shaoge.
• 2024-07-03 09:44:40.758093182 +0000 UTC m=+1404007.243582011: ☑️ agreed by XuHuaiyu.

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