Add BorderedMenuItem and use it for delete menu, with updated style

[benjiwheeler]

Reverts the reversion #4374 , and adds updated styling

Resolves #4345

Proposed Changes

Adds BorderedMenuItem, which has a border at the top and becomes red when hovered
Use it for Delete menu (also reorder it)

Reason for Changes

Some people accidentally delete sprites because there was no difference between this and the others

[rschamp]

Try it out: revert-4374-revert-4359-delete-select

I'm a bot, not actually @rschamp!

[benjiwheeler]

@carljbowman @kathymakes What do you think of this?

Previously, this looked like:

With this code change, it will instead look like:

...that orange is error-light; alternatively, we could use error-primary:

[benjiwheeler]

Now using the middle-intensity of the three shades of orange: error-primary

[benjiwheeler]

Merging, per approval by @carljbowman!