Upgrade externals to latest - November 2022

[BetsyMcPhail]

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Prior issue: #18023

• November 2022 updates #18244
• usockets and uwebsockets needs update to latest #17910. Related, usockets cannot be updated without updating uwebsockets (link to error here).

In file included from geometry/meshcat.cc:21:
external/uwebsockets/src/App.h:89:5: error: static_assert failed due to requirement 'sizeof(us_socket_context_options_t) == sizeof(uWS::SocketContextOptions)' "Mismatching uSockets/uWebSockets ABI"
    static_assert(sizeof(struct us_socket_context_options_t) == sizeof(SocketContextOptions), "Mismatching uSockets/uWebSockets ABI");
    ^             ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~           

• curl_internal still working