ttl: fix the issue that the task is not cancelled after transfering owners (#57788)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #57788

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #57784

Problem Summary:

The TTL task is not cancelled after the owner transfers to other TiDB nodes.

What changed and how does it work?

1. Don't report status when the owner is not myself.
2. Don't update heartbeat when the owenr is not myself.
3. Check the affected rows to see whether task manager UPDATE successfully.
4. Cancel the task after finding that the owner is not myself.

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[YangKeao]

LGTM

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Timeline:

• 2025-01-06 09:29:20.691390038 +0000 UTC m=+173103.980221739: ☑️ agreed by lcwangchao.
• 2025-01-07 06:03:16.896034933 +0000 UTC m=+247140.184866637: ☑️ agreed by YangKeao.

[YangKeao]

/retest

[YangKeao]

/retest